“Most people complain, protest, and feel miserable when they don’t get love from the outside. An adult does not complain; an emotionally grown up person has his own love available inside him. He no longer has the unconscious belief that he will die without love from outside. You might think from this that growing up means to be alone, isolated, unable to relate. But that is also the fear of a child.
Only a kid would believe, “Oh, I’ll be all alone, by myself. That’s really scary!” An adult isn’t scared of being alone. An adult knows that he has a choice about being alone or being with others.” -A.H. Almaas